Lubricant
I specifically designed lube is essential for any toy box, especially if your other toys include dildos or strap-ons. Lubricant is also useful if you decide to milk your slave or have him masturbate for you.
Latex Gloves
Some tight latex gloves can conjure up some kinky images of doctors and nurses but they’re also great for BDSM play. Gloves are perfect if you want to squeeze, slap or examine your sub without making contact. I also find that the lack of actual contact, the domme’s unwillingness to touch the genitals is a reminder of her superiority.
Leather Wrist Restraints
Not everyone is in to restraining or being restrained but leather wrist restraints are a little more tame than handcuffs while still leaving you sub in a vulnerable position.
Ball Gag
Not essential but a staple piece of bondage kit, especially if you have thin walls and want to keep the neighbours from hearing your slave’s screams.
Collar And Lead
I don’t think there is anything the which say power play more than keeping your slave on a lead. The feelings are powerful for both parties, for you the sense of power you will have when you own a man in this way and for him the feeling of being owned.
Blindfold
There’s nothing like the feeling of anticipation in BDSM play, leave him wondering what’s going to happen next, it lightens the sense and the excitement.
Cock Ring
A cock ring is traditionally used as an erectile aid, but it’s also great in the world of cock and ball torture. The cock ring goes around the base of the cock and under the balls meaning the balls are held tightly in the scrotum, they are not only more vulnerable this way but also easier to control.
Bondage Candles
Wax play can be intense and fun but make sure you use the correct candles. Bondage candles burn at a lower temperature than normal candles which makes them safe for play.
Clothes Pegs
A cock and ball torture staple, cheap, easy and available anywhere. It’s alway worth keeping a few clothes pegs to hand.
Riding Crop
A crop is great for striking the ass, cock and balls of your slave. It’s a great prop for a dominatrix and the perfect tool to wield over your slave as he kneels before you.
Flogger
A flogger or cat-o-nine tails is a lighter alternative to a whip, they are available from any online sex store and reasonably cheap. They don’t pack the same sting that a whip does but they are still very effective. You can to strike pretty hard with one of these to cause any serious pain so it’s good for beginners.
Funnel
Just a normal kitchen funnel, great for using your slave as a human toilet, it means you can pee in his mouth wherever you are in the house without making a mess.
Beginner’s Strap-On Kit
Set for beginners are readily available, they usually come with the harness and two different sized dildos so you can train your slave. Strap-on play is a great form of power exchange, something that as a domme you should find empowering and enjoyable, the perfect role reversal.
